What's with you and God? Perhaps now is the time for you to find some answers...answers that will help you on your spiritual quest. A good place to start is with our book, What's With You and God.

This book is about discovery

  • It invites nones and dones and others open to a spiritual journey.
  • It requires dialog in which the give-and- take feels more like exploration than education.
  • It requires dialog in which the give-and- take feels more like exploration than a struggle between opposing factions.
  • It stimulates reflection about God and our unique relationships with God.
  • It explores seven principles for living connected with God.
  • It invites “graduating” to a team of kindred spirits willing to practice those principles where they live and work.

What others are saying about the book:

  • The questions were tough, made us think, for a change!
  • I find myself questioning my answers and how they relate good or bad to my life. You really have me thinking about a lot of things and changes I may need to make.
  • I got to hear everyone's opinion and experiences in the group and what I can take from that.
  • I have already read the entire book and especially like the section on courage and hope
  • I found (the questions) not only relevant to the book, but to real life situations when I took the time to ponder their meaning in relation to my own life.
  • It is useful to both the person who wants to 'go deeper' as well as the one who might be at the beginning of his/her journey of faith.
  • It was refreshing to engage in positive, healthy discourse regardless of agreement or alignment of belief.
  • The author generates a life-giving conversation between himself and the reader. He leaves questions unanswered so that the reader can discover truth along the journey of faith.
  • Stubbs’ very honest and straightforward book is refreshing as it challenges us to be honest with ourselves and deal with our relationship with God.
  • The way he challenges us to engage our minds is beautiful; and I love concluding with Weinar’s list of “reality check” at the end of the book. A great reminder to me of why we should be optimistic!
  • The book does a good job of priming my mind for more knowledge.
  • I found that myself critically examining my lifestyle choices.
  • The book is very reader-friendly, down to earth while dealing with profound life issues. I like the drama in the opening exchanges between those waiting in the hospital for the surgeon's word on their loved ones. That drew me into the book right away and made me want to read further.
  • Your question, "How do you differentiate between love as an expansive state and love as a state of clinging dependency?" is key to relationships and needs to be raised by every pre-marital (and marital!) counselor.
  • I am a "list" person so the 7 principles have appeal to me. They give good direction in a simple way.
  • It is refreshing to become aware of the GOD winks. I like the statement on courage. And, I like the fact that you include the thinking of lots of smart folks now and in the past.
  • It encouraged me to examine not just what I know "about" God, but how I "know" God.
  • You introduce the Seven Principles as just that--guiding principle for getting to know God, not rigid guidelines on which we will be judged.
  • Your book clearly makes the point that knowing God is liberating, not restrictive or confining. I'm sure that I will read passages from the book again and again, as I expect to gain something important from each rereading
  • Here’s a timely guide to mutual acceptance and respect via genuine listening and two-way dialog, culminating in the lifestyle of a servant leader. It’s both a word of hope and a call to action sorely needed in today’s contentious culture. The hope is to outgrow the one-way monologues of social media via face-to-face dialog focused not simply on self-expression, but on mutual understanding.
  • As a professor of writing and literature, as well as a union activist, I anticipate powerful applications of the seven principles. Especially Stubbs’s ideas about servant leadership may be useful at work, in the classroom, and in the streets as part of grassroots organizing for social justice.

Yes, you can find God through real robust dialog

Why is dialog the middle name of our Ministries?
Dialog is not just another word for conversation. When we say “dialog” we don’t mean talking a subject to death. What we mean is digging deep into a subject, down to its roots. It’s more than talk, discussion, debate, or sharing, no matter how honest. True dialog is much more. In fact, real robust dialogue can help us discover God’s Liberating Truth.
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How to tell if you are engaged in real robust dialog

  1. When someone understands what you mean or you understand what they mean.
  2. There’s an exchange of ideas, thoughts, and views that leads to probing.
  3. There is little argument, more exploration; less effort to convince, more to discover.
  4. All points of view are expressed without becoming defensive.  With wasted energy diminished, hot topics can be discussed and become windows to deep insights. Read more

Key leaders weighed in on the book:

It's a perilous time for calm, reasonable books--even calm, reasonable books with the potential to bring changes to our world that are anything but calm (read more)

I think everyone should read this book. Its pages, rich in spiritual nourishment-- has offerings for those who already know God, those who would like to know God, and those who are unsure whether knowing God even matters.(read more)

In What’s with You and God? Irving Stubbs has written a thought-provoking book in lively, accessible prose that lays out seven principles for exploring one’s relationship to God. (read more)

Amid these times of widespread division in both politics and friendships, Irving Stubbs leads us on a challenging journey beyond your comfort zone to deepen your relationship with God and thereby, with others. (read more)

What are the benefits of engaging in dialog to discover how well you know God?

1. Participants refine and deepen their relationship with God as they verbalize their beliefs in an organized and safe forum.
2. Participants develop a Worldview based on their evolving discovery of their understanding of self and their relationship to
the Ultimate Reality of God.
3. Community develops among individuals who share principles for a bigger life purpose.
4. Supportive and cohesive relationships provide a strong foundation to publicly live the principles of a nation under God.
5. The culture of our society is infused with grounds for making moral decisions about the complexity in which we live.

Embrace the Seven Principles Discussed in the Book

  • Live Up to Your Potential
  • Live in Dialog
  • Live Connected with God
  • Live in Unconditional Love
  • Live with Courage
  • Live in Hope
  • Live as Servant Leaders

We read some books for information, some for inspiration, and some for entertainment. This book includes a bit of each, but neither is the main purpose of the book. The purpose of this book is to stimulate THINKING about why we are here, what makes the journey worthwhile, and what principles help us to make it that.

Each core chapter includes nine questions for your dialog. Hopefully, they will stimulate discoveries. It is in discovery that we find a reliable personal worldview to guide our lives. Each reader's discovery will be unique. That discovery will more likely be validated when made in the creative environment of dialog.

Path to Alignment Network

If you lead a group of emerging adults on campus or in other organizational contexts, you are invited to check out our path to the Alignment Network. The Network is for those willing to engage in a process that leads to teams of individuals willing to practice their faith in God where they live and work. Check out this PDF for more.

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Frequently Asked Questions

When is a dialog course offered?

Participants determine when a course begins or ends, based on their schedules. Each group is free to decide how often, and for how long they will meet based on how much time is desired to explore the material in the book.

Where do dialog groups meet?

Community Centers, libraries, schools, churches, homes, coffee shops, cafes, etc. Just as each group determines when they meet, they also choose where to meet. A good venue should be easy for all participants to get to, safe, and inviting. Each participant needs to feel welcome and comfortable in order to engage in meaningful dialog with one another.

Is there a cost?

There is no registration fee. Each participant needs a copy of the book which is the primary tool for dialog. The book, What’s With You and God?, by Irving Stubbs, can be bought on Amazon.com or downloaded in PDF form from our website. If a chosen venue requires a fee for use, it’s up to the group to cover that expense.

What are the expectations of each participant?

Show up to each dialog session having read the chapter to be discussed, ready to share, question and listen. This is a group learning experience, everyone has something to contribute and hear.

Does someone lead a dialog group?

Someone needs to be designated the facilitator of each group. It’s best if that person has some experience with group dialog. The facilitator is not meant to lead the dialog, but guide it, so that each chapter of the book is explored fully. Additional resources may be introduced into dialog. It’s best if this is communicated ahead of each session, giving every participant an opportunity to read, review, and come prepared to contribute to the dialog.

Once a dialog course is completed, what’s next?

Participants are invited to join The Alignment Network and commit to practicing the seven principles for living outlined in the course book. There is no membership fee, only an expectation that all Alignment Network members will support one another as needed, engage in ongoing dialog, network for professional growth and be vocal advocates for this path to spiritual discovery and connection with God.

How does a dialog group come together and get started?

Whether you have a group that wishes to embark on this dialog path, or you are an individual interested in joining a dialog group, all you need do is complete the contact us portion on this website, and someone will get in touch with you about next steps within 24 hours. Also, if you are an individual interested in joining a dialog group, or starting one, it’s the same process. Contact us with your interest and we’ll assist you in getting started.

How do I get more information?

Complete the contact us form on this website and someone from our team will be in touch within 24 hours to answer any questions you have about dialog groups, the book, Alignment Network membership benefits, etc.

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About Us

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Anne Parker

Network Connector

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Irving Stubbs

Founder of The Alignment Network


Brian Regrut


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Our Story

The Alignment Network began in the heart and mind of Irving Stubbs, a retired Presbyterian Minister and International Business Consultant. As Irving watched Americans move away from religious affiliation and faith communities, he became concerned about where people who consider themselves spiritual would find nurture.
Where might the growing number of "nones" and "dones" turn to connect with one another and explore their curiosity about God? How might they grow and learn together with the hope of having a positive impact in the communities in which they live and work?

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The Alignment Network seeks to address these questions by engaging adults in dialog around knowing God. Irving penned a short book, What’s With You and God?, which serves as a tool for shared discovery. His belief that reading, questioning, listening and learning together can ignite a positive force in society led to the creation of the Alignment Network. Dialog participants are invited to join the Network, an internet community, and practice the seven principles for living which are outlined in the book.

The Alignment Network adheres to no religious denomination, doctrine or dogma. It seeks answers to important questions around theology and science, and then apply those answers positively influencing our society. Our hope is that Network members will choose careers, partners and volunteer opportunities influenced by their shared understanding of God, and how many paths lead to that connection.


The Alignment Network is under the direction of TLDM, Inc. (The Living Dialog Ministries), a 501(c)(3) incorporated by the State Corporation Commission of the Commonwealth of Virginia and is a tax-exempt organization. TLDM, Inc. embraces science, theology, psychology and group dynamics in the conviction that connection with God includes all that we are.
We seek to reach adults likely to influence America’s future. Research shows that instant gratification is endemic in our culture and we believe that our project will attract emerging adults willing to invest time and thought into discovery that will reap long term benefits.

Become a Friend
Friends of the Alignment Network believe that its success will make many lives, our societies and our country better. Friends are kept informed on the growth and activity of the Alignment Network through email. Friends are asked to be advocates for the Alignment Network in the communities in which they live and work.

We encourage Friends to suggest organizations and individuals for our team to contact to share about the Alignment Network. Friends are valuable resources to the Alignment Network. Monetary support is not expected but appreciated.

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Become a Partner
Partners play a critically important role in the life of The Alignment Network. In addition to being ambassadors such as Friends are, Partners commit to make one financial gift per year to support the work of The Network. Each Partner chooses the amount and time of their gift. To learn more, contact Brian Regrut at info@alignmentnetwork.org

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