Revised Edition Endorsements
It's a perilous time for calm, reasonable books--even calm, reasonable books with the potential to bring changes to our world that are anything but calm and reasonable. Changes that are revolutionary, even life-changing. Such a book has Irving Stubbs given us here.
Among all the screeds left and right that generate white-hot ideological heat, we need a book that gets us thinking and builds bridges of light through dialog--dialog that can heal the rifts social and personal and get us thinking about transcendent things--values and meaning and the God who wants us to engage.
If you read only one book this year, you could hardly do better than reading Irving Stubbs's book and dialoging with it!
Scott Stewart, Christian Author Services, Editor of more than 250 books, Author, The Healing of Ryne O’Casey
I think everyone should read this book. Its pages, rich in spiritual nourishment-- has offerings for those who already know God, those who would like to know God, and those who are unsure whether knowing God even matters.
You will be inspired to examine not just what you know "about " God, but how you “know” God. Questions for dialog are posed to encourage serious thinking and self-examination. For example, your ears may have heard of God, but have your heart and mind gotten to know God? And how does one get on a path to knowing God? For many, coming to know God personally and profoundly is an unending journey of discovery.
This book provides principles and guidelines that make this path to discovery clear and inviting. Easy to read, rewarding to digest – What's with You and God? – has my strongest endorsement.
Spencer Christian, ABC Television Personality, Author, You Bet Your Life: How I Survived Jim Crow Racism, Hurricane Chasing, & Gambling (Available fall 2017)
In What’s with You and God? Irving Stubbs has written a thought-provoking book in lively, accessible prose that lays out seven principles for exploring one’s relationship to God.
A main focus is on listening to one another in dialogue. Stubbs likes to take leaps, and he introduces stories from many different fields–literature, technology, popular culture, neuroscience; this will appeal to a wide audience of readers, including millennials who may have grown disenchanted with the Christian church.
As a professor of writing and literature, as well as a union activist, I anticipate powerful applications of the seven principles. Especially Stubbs’s ideas about servant leadership may be useful at work, in the classroom, and in the streets as part of grassroots organizing for social justice.
Carole K. Harris, Associate Professor of English,New York City College of Technology,City University of New York
Amid these times of widespread division in both politics and friendships, Irving Stubbs leads us on a challenging journey beyond your comfort zone to deepen your relationship with God and thereby, with others.
Here’s a timely guide to mutual acceptance and respect via genuine listening and two-way dialog, culminating in the lifestyle of a servant leader. It’s both a word of hope and a call to action sorely needed in today’s contentious culture. The hope is to outgrow the one-way monologs of social media via face-to-face dialog focused not simply on self-expression, but on mutual understanding.
The action is to continue that renewing process via small groups and spiritual growth. Irving Stubbs believes it can happen. You will too when you read his book.
Gordon Dalbey, www.abbafather.com, Author, Broken by Religion, Healed by God: Restoring the Sacramental, Evangelical, Pentecostal, Social Justice Church
We asked those who read our book, including some in dialog sessions, to tell us what they thought of it.
Here are their responses.
- We loved it, well written, moves fast, a much-needed book! The questions were tough, made us think, for a change! We will order more to give out more copies.
- As I am sitting here getting my hair done, I am reading more of your book. I realized why it is taking me so long. I am answering the questions that are after each section. And after I get an answer I go back and reread the other questions to see if my original answer to them changes any. And I find myself questioning my answers and how they relate good or bad to my life. You really have me thinking about a lot of things and changes I may need to make
- This could be a revolution. It's safe, sacred, and there's respect that we can disagree but still have a shared experience together.
- I liked how I got to hear everyone's opinion and experiences in the group and what I can take from that.
- I do think these questions and principles are relevant to students, among others! Your tone seems honest and authentic, non preachy, so that is refreshing. I also appreciate your real world examples that are not trite or shallow, but full and deep. From what I experience, students are looking to be engaged authentically and deeply, so this seems to be what you're doing.
- I am answering the questions that are after each section. And after I get an answer I go back and reread the other questions to see if my original answer to them changes any. And I find myself questioning my answers and how they relate good or bad to my life. You really have me thinking about a lot of things and changes I may need to make.
- I have already read the entire book and especially like the section on courage and hope. Servant leadership is the critical component as we learned at AIT. Sadly, I think that characteristic of leadership today is on the wane just like the general moral decline we see in the culture.
- I found What’s With You and God's approach to bringing people back to God to be not pushy, but encouraging, using meaningful insights and thought provoking questions in each of its chapters that I found not only relevant to the book, but to real life situations when I took the time to ponder their meaning in relation to my own life.
- I found the book practical and insightful - It is useful to both the person who wants to 'go deeper' as well as the one who might be at the beginning of his / her journey of faith. Good book.
- The well-reputed sources of some of the quotes included in the book also made it easy to relate. Some of the individuals who were quoted I learned about in high school or college courses on Philosophy, Politics, and Literature, not necessarily courses on Religion.
- What’s With You and God? is an excellent thought-provoking tool for millennials that are tired of traditional religion and dogma but yet are still searching for meaning and connectedness to God.
- The group provided a great opportunity for open dialog. It was refreshing to engage in positive, healthy discourse regardless of agreement or alignment of belief.
- By using the dialogue approach of asking challenging existential questions, the author generates a life-giving conversation between himself and the reader. He leaves questions unanswered so that the reader can discover truth along the journey of faith. His seven principles give the reader some simple but potentially profound ways of putting their faith into practice.
- The hope and unconditional love that is offered through this method will no doubt lead the reader to get connected further with God and be a force of transformation in communities around the world.
- The format of the book made it easy and fast to read, factors which are often very important for the millennials who make up a large part of the target audience. In days filled with classes, work, and personal lives that seem endlessly busy, large books that require big chunks of time to finish and often additional research to understand the content will often be passed by.
- What’s With You and God? In a world of “bumper-sticker theology”, Stubbs’ very honest and straightforward book is refreshing as it challenges us to be honest with ourselves and deal with our relationship with God.
- The seven principles Stubbs mentions provide specific ways for the individual to grow in relationship to God. I particularly appreciate the way that he grounds these principles in with well-respected theologians (Tillich, Niebuhr, Lewis, to name a few) while applying them to everyday situations.
- The questions for reflection/discussion listed throughout help the book come alive. The way he challenges us to engage our minds is beautiful; and I love concluding with Weinar’s list of “reality check” at the end of the book. A great reminder to me of why we should be optimistic!
- In this day and age, it is important to acknowledge the role the medical sciences play in our daily life. The book does a good job of priming my mind for more knowledge.
- As I read, What’s With You and God? I found that myself critically examining my lifestyle choices. Although no one question posited by the book was challenging, collectively, the questions, the book invites a profound request. This is an individualized request I ask of myself, one that is a mix of knowledge of my own life, and of the book.
- I'm an inveterate storyteller myself, so l liked the many tales you drew from others to highlight your points--especially the one of Sgt. Edmunds' courage defending the Jewish soldiers in his troop. I suspect most of us men secretly harbor an uncertainty, "Would I rise to the occasion if it ever came to such a challenge in my own life?" Our, in your terms, "Would I react instinctively? Or withdraw?"
- The book is very reader-friendly, down to earth while dealing with profound life issues. I like the drama in the opening exchanges between those waiting in the hospital for the surgeon's word on their loved ones. That drew me into the book right away and made me want to read further.
- Squire Rushnell's GodWinks reminded me of a Catholic priest I once heard preach who talked about "holy coincidences." It's a great way to talk to secular folks about experiences that beg for a supernatural acknowledgment.
- Your question, "How do you differentiate between love as an expansive state and love as a state of clinging dependency?" is key to relationships and needs to be raised by every pre-marital (and marital!) counselor.
- You ask the hard questions that people should not duck. When tough questions surface most folks will do their best to steer the dialogue to something more comfortable. In asking the hard questions you are trying to drive folks thinking to the root cause.
- I am a "list" person so the 7 principles have appeal to me. They give good direction in a simple way. For most, the Bible is not an easy read. Folks should read your book daily. It is easy and gives stuff you can apply now. You mention Servant Leadership. Those two words never surface. Thanks for giving it exposure. The SL concepts deserve better.
- I love the GodWinks. I have these all the time. Now, I know what to call them! It is refreshing to become aware of the GOD winks. I like the statement on courage. And, I like the fact that you include the thinking of lots of smart folks now and in the past.
- Reading your book has been uplifting and spiritually rewarding. It encouraged me to examine not just what I know "about" God, but how I "know" God. You illustrate so clearly how dialog not only acquaints us with how others see God, but helps us deepen our own understanding of God.
- One of my most positive impressions of the book is how you introduce the Seven Principles as just that--guiding principle for getting to know God, not rigid guidelines on which we will be judged.
- Your book clearly makes the point that knowing God is liberating, not restrictive or confining. I'm sure that I will read passages from the book again and again, as I expect to gain something important from each rereading.
There are lots of valid reasons why many have either left or never associated with traditional faith communities. This book isn’t interested in defending anyone or anything, or looking back on what may have driven someone away. It’s meant to invite readers into a new experience, to move forward together, to create something with significant potential, something we call The Alignment Network.